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Restoring Harmony in Your Relationship

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Happy February, friends! I hope that you’ve had a wonderful start to this new year.

 

February is widely celebrated as the “love month,” largely due to the festivities of Valentine’s Day. Romantic relationships hold a significant place in the lives of countless individuals, offering companionship, support, and love. While many envision Valentine’s Day as being a joyful holiday for couples in committed relationships, the reality can sometimes be more nuanced.

 

“You always shut me out when we disagree. It’s like you don’t care about my feelings.”

 

“I just need some space to think. Why can’t you leave me alone?”

 

“I feel lonely and neglected. Why don’t you show any interest in our relationship?”

 

“I’m fine. There’s nothing wrong.”

 

Are these phrases you hear or speak often within your romantic relationship?

 

Don’t worry – you’re not alone.

 

Hearing or speaking these phrases does not mean that your partner does not love you, or that you do not love your partner. There is hope!

 

In some romantic relationships, conflicts arise from how partners handle emotional needs and responses. One common pattern is the “pursuer-withdrawer dynamic.” One partner, the “pursuer,” craves closeness, reassurance, and resolution. They often seek more interaction and may feel anxious or frustrated when their needs aren’t met. The other partner, the ”withdrawer,” may feel overwhelmed by the intensity of the pursuer’s approach. They often need space to process emotions and can become distant or disengaged during conflicts. This tug-of-war can create a cycle of tension and misunderstanding, leaving both partners feeling unheard and disconnected.

 

At Restored Waters Counseling, I specialize in “Emotionally Focused Therapy” (EFT), an approach designed to help couples break free from negative patterns like the pursuer-withdrawer dynamic. EFT helps partners uncover the underlying emotions driving their behaviors. For pursuers, it might be fear of abandonment or loneliness. For withdrawers, it could be feelings of overwhelm or inadequacy. By understanding these emotions, couples can move beyond blame, resentment, and disconnection.

 

Emotionally Focused Therapy fosters a safe and supportive environment where both partners can express their needs and fears openly. Through guided conversations, couples learn to communicate with empathy and understanding. EFT helps couples develop new ways of interacting that promote emotional bonding. By addressing vulnerabilities and fostering mutual support, couples can create a secure foundation that withstands future challenges.


If you recognize the difficult pursuer-withdrawer dynamic in your relationship, know that change is possible!


Let this February be the month when you take the first step toward a healthier, more fulfilling relationship. Imagine moving beyond the cycle of pursuit and withdrawal to a place of genuine connection and mutual support. With EFT, you can rediscover the love and companionship that brought you together in the first place.


At Restored Waters Counseling, I’m here to support you every step of the way. Let’s work together to transform your relationship and create the loving, supportive partnership you deserve.

 

Warmly,


Beverly

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